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How to Decide which Expert to Trust when You're Googling Something New

If you're like many of my clients, you'd like some suggestions regarding how to learn about  neurodiversity . Maybe, like them, you feel a strong desire to understand it and don't know where to start or what to believe once you get underway in your search. I agree it can be confusing. Even professionals struggle to stay current in this rapidly changing field. Here are few ideas that can help you approach your search with calm and with the faith that you will find what you need and feel confident enough to use the information in your own life. That's what were discussing here: education. How do you learn something new in a trustworthy way when you're undertaking it on your own? If you google a topic, or scroll through your LinkedIn contact list, for example, you'll find no shortage of experts. They seem to be everywhere. But sometimes, credentials are difficult to evaluate. So is content. Authors write stridently and opinions vary. Sometimes, it even seems that f

What Is Neurodiversity?

Whenever I work with couples, either as their therapist or coach, the first thing we do is discuss language. It's not as simple as it may seem. Most of us have developed mildly idiosyncratic understandings of words we commonly use over the course of our lifetimes. To be sure, there are baseline definitions that we all agree on, but beyond that we all have a certain spin that we attach to words that is based in the particulars of our own life experience.  This applies even to the most basic of words, words which you may absolutely insist that everyone uses in the same way. Happiness, sadness, frustration, anger, regret - these words may seem like pretty basic vocabulary. And yet couple after couple have come to see how slight differences in usage and interpretation can lead to enormous chasms of pain and distress in their communication. In later posts, I will explore ways you c an explore these potential challenges together. Today, let's look at the word neurodiversity. In case